Mens Divorce in California for Fathers

If anyone recalls, Alec Baldwin speaking horrible things into a answering phone during his custody battle with actress Kim Basinger, one can see that a divorce litigation really brings out the worst in people. In an interesting story, there is a real need it appears for men going through divorce to band together and change the family law statutes in place today. Many fathers complain that the typical visitation schedule of only 4 days is simply not enough. While I don’t agree that there is anything as a typical visitation schedule, an alternating weekend schedule is common. But that is where creative lawyering and parents working together come into play to find the best schedule for their children.

I always inform my clients that the while I can not change the statutes, if they do not like the family laws then their job is to write to congress and write to their senators to change the laws. I can only do what is in my power and under the law allows. When a party litigates a case, often what happens is one person gets the short end of the stick, an unfortunate reality in divorce litigation. I have not seen the film yet, but I do think that any review of the law is a good thing, if not for the purpose of ensuring it is the best out there for the modern family. . I am a San Jose Divorce Lawyer, practicing Family Law in the Santa Clara County.

Christian Divorce

I came across a good article about practicing law with a spiritual basis. According to the story, a family lawyer in North Carolina started out practicing lawyering the traditional way which we are all taught to do. The client comes to you and asks you to achieve their objectives as much as possible. With this method the lawyer in the story was able to build a thriving law practice. Unfortunately, for the lawyer he felt unfulfilled practicing law the traditional way. The lawyer decided to go to seminary school and upon graduation started practicing law in a way that coincided with his world view. That meant for him trying to keep marriages together, counseling couples to work it out for the sake of the children.

I believe the law practice requires a personal touch. Whenever possible a lawyer should distinguish himself from his peers by practicing the way they feel best. While I do not share that lawyers views of practicing with a Christian perspective, I respect his desire to do so, and what appears to be a genuine need for that type of lawyer. I try to practice by avoiding conflict when allowed, and attempting reconciliation of issues as quickly as possible. It is true that a highly contested case is more likely to bring in the revenue, it does not make for a truly satisfied client. A client who is able to save money and accomplish their goals, reasonably is a truly satisfied client. I am a San Jose Divorce Lawyer, practicing Family Law in the Santa Clara County.

Fear of Commitment and Fear of Divorce

I found an interesting article on MSNBC regarding a concerned reader who loves her boyfriend but he won’t marry her because he is afraid of the divorce rate. It is true that divorce is at an all time high, but that does not mean that parties should not take the leap of marriage.

The Dr. stated that, the real issues to be concerned with are, does the boyfriend take commitment seriously. It is not realistic to expect every day of a marriage to be blissful, however is the partner ready to commit and hold on during the bad times. For a woman, there is added pressure because she biologically can not conceive naturally after a certain age. In the question, the reader states she has been dating her boyfriend for five years. Five years in the Dr’s opinion is plenty of time to determine if a couple is compatible or not. The Dr, states that there may be deeper issues at hand, namely the boyfriends inability to commit, she asks the woman to look at the boyfriends history. Does he lack commitment and follow through, does he give up on large purchases, does he not complete goals. All these should help the woman determine whether the boyfriend is a commitment type.

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Immigration and Divorce

I came across an good article reading the immigration aspects of divorce. While I don’t claim to be an immigration attorney, I often come across clients who have immigration issues with their divorce.

For that reason it is important to consult with an immigration attorney when you are facing immigration issues in your divorce process. The couple will be scrutinized by immigration officials if the divorce is of short duration and the divorce occurs quickly after marriage. Please take a look at the interesting article to gain some education.

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Affordable and Cheap Divorce in California

I read a recent article in the Examiner regarding “obtaining a cheap divorce in California.” While I often tell potential clients that you usually get what you pay for, and a large part of my job is fixing the mistakes that clients make when they do it themselves. I understand that not every person is in a financial position to be able to afford an attorney. While I consider myself an affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer, I am by no means cheap.

When clients inform me of their financial situation, I often tell them that there are many resources out there for those who can not afford to hire an attorney. I personally offer, Limited Scope Representation. There is the Pro Bono Project of Silicon Valley, and the self help center in the local court house. There are also many self help books in your local library. Good publishers are the Nolo line of books.

There are also things that one can do to make the divorce cheaper. The more that you can agree on, the cheaper the divorce will be. The article is interesting in that it gives common sense advice. Namely, that you will first need to agree on the essentials of the divorce, 1) property division, 2) child custody, and 3) child and spousal support. If you can get those agreements made that is the majority of the divorce there. If you need help on Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer, or from a San Jose Family Lawyer please contact my office today. I offer many affordable options, including Limited Scope Representation.