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I am a San Jose Divorce Lawyer in Santa Clara County Family Lawyer working in the Bay Area. I handle a variety of family law matters in the greater Bay Area. Limited Scope Santa Clara County / Low Cost / Affordable Divorce / Uncontested Divorce San Jose

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Wednesday, October 25, 2017

California Vietnamese and Chinese Divorce


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I read a very interesting article regarding the changing cultural taboos of divorce in Vietnamese communities.  This article may be interesting to my Vietnamese or Chinese Vietnamese readers. 

According to the article, there are presently 16 divorces per 1000 marriages among Vietnamese families.  The national average is 19 divorces per 1000 marriages.   The article points that the divorce rates are climbing closer to the national average.

The article points that for many Vietnamese immigrants who came to the US, they often stuck together due to family pressure, or cultural necessity due to being recent immigrants in a new land.    The article also points to religious factors keeping the couples together as Vietnam has a large Catholic population. 

The story points to the second generation children as the ones who facilitate the process of divorcing their parents because they are adopting more Western values of personal happiness and contentment.  The parents are also seeing that the unhappiness between the parents lead to unhappiness with their children.

In the assimilation of values of the traditional Vietnamese communities, there are also older men who still seek traditional wives and marriages.  The article points to some Vietnamese men who travel back to Vietnam to meet and marry traditional wives.

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 

If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

Careers that Lead to Divorce

An interesting article regarding the differing divorce rates among different professions.  The article mentions that while the high divorce rate in the US at around 50 percent is actually a myth.

The article points out that it is very difficult to actually calculate the divorce rate and many factors come into play in determining the rate such as race and employment status.

The article found out that bartenders, and casino gaming managers had the highest rates of divorce.  The atmosphere appeared to not be conducive to stable marriages.
Unsurprisingly they also found that highly paid professionals seemed to have much lower rates of divorce.  People who choose certain professions seem to be from certain demographics which impacts on how certain individuals live their lives. 

The authors noted that just switching careers wouldn’t make an unstable marriage a stable one as the rates more likely have to do with the types of people who choose certain professions.

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 

If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

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When Divorce is the Better Choice

I read a good article regarding when to evaluate your marriage and determine if divorce may be the best option for you.

The author points out that it is healthy to view a separation as a transformation of love that grew into a different type of relationship.  This view of the relationship can be a healthy way to view the marriage so that the couple can move on with the bitterness and anger.  Some of the important tips that the writer mentions when evaluating ones marriage:

1.     Abuse.  When there is outright abuse it is much better to leave.  It can be hard to leave, but the act of leaving allows the victim to learn to love themselves and begin the process of healing.

2.     Counseling failed.  When the parties have tried counseling and it has failed.   When a couple has tried a few counselors and it is still not helping to bring the couple back together it is usually a sign that the couple has grown too far apart. 

3.     You’ve grown apart.  The author notes that if after deep reflection you have grown too far apart and can not come together.  It is a sign that the large gap may not be closed.  The married couple needs to find a way to form a unit, and if the gap is too large the marriage is headed for failure.

4.     You can’t find happiness together.  The author notes that if you’ve put in the work and your relationship is still feeling empty then it may be a sign that the relationship is over.

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 

If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

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Tuesday, July 25, 2017

California No Fault Divorce and Divorce Filings

California became a no fault divorce state since the 1960s.  At that time there was debate as to what that might mean culturally if Husbands are easier able to leave a marriage.  50 years later and its overwhelmingly the case that women are the ones who initiate divorce filings.  An interesting article discusses the reasons that is the case.  

The article cites that according to major studies 70 to 80 percent of all divorce filings are initiated by women.  The article further states the issues of modern marriage and how that may affect the one sidedness to divorce filings. 

Cited by the article as some reasons for the initiated filings are:  women tend to be more expressive with their dissatisfaction with the marriage, the division of household labor, and the basic household responsibilities of child rearing and household management. 

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 


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If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

Child Custody and Psychological Issues

I came across a great article regarding the perils of child custody litigation when it becomes apparent that the other person has a psychological issue.  The writer discusses specifically narcissistic personality disorder, where the person is a real life Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.  Some of the things to look out for that may indicate a narcissistic personality order in contested custody litigation:

1.     When the person’s words never live up to their actions.
2.     When the person is constantly lying to the Court and you.
3.     When despite having a Court order, the person with the disorder still finds ways to escape the order or have it not apply.

The author goes on to interview a well known children’s rights attorney in California to discuss the issue of psychological disorders in family court.  The attorney mentions that in high conflict cases, there sometimes there is sometimes a presumption that equal parenting or 50/ t0 is the right thing to do.  But that presumption is acceptable for two healthy parents, but when one may have a personality disorder that arrangement does not work.  The other parent will lie, manipulate and abuse the children in the name of winning at all costs.

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 

If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

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Sunday, July 23, 2017

Contested Custody and Children's Health

Here’s another reason to try your best to have a good relationship with your ex partner.  I read an intriguing article about acrimonious divorce and the effect on adult children’s immune health.  A recent study showed that children whose parents were undergoing an acrimonious contested divorce were more likely to suffer colds and illnesses during childhood and beyond.

The children whose parents lived apart and never spoke to one another were 3 times more likely to develop colds than those children whose parents stayed together.

The article cites that its possible the explanation is due to the divorce related stress that children undergo when there is a contested divorce.  It is well established that stress has a multitude of effects on the body and overall diminished health.


If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

Lesbian Couple and Custody Disputes

I read an interesting article taking place in Arizona about the new frontier of family law now that same sex marriage is a reality across the nation.  In an interesting article a lesbian couple became pregnant via a sperm donor and where only one parent was the biological parent of the child.  The non biological parent stayed home to raise the child thus forming an emotional bond with the child.

The relationship deteriorated and at the filing for divorce the biological parent sought to prevent the other parent from exercising any parental rights due to a lack of legal or biological connection to the child.  The biological parent cited Arizona’s old law on paternity and successfully argued that the non biological parent had no legal connection to the child because she could not establish paternity.  Presently the appeals Court in Arizona has sided with the biological parent.

Once parentage is established then the Court can examine other factors such as "best interest" for the child and the bonding that has happened with the non biological parent and child. 

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 


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If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

Questions to ask Prior to Filing for Divorce

A great new article poses some wise advice to consider prior to filing for divorce.  The article goes on to list questions to ask yourself before pulling the trigger on your divorce.  The list includes:

1)   Being Clear About Relationship Problems.  The article mentions being clear with your relationship issues.  They cite to most people only hearing 30 to 35 percent of what they hear.  So be clear and concise with your thoughts.

2)   Is there a way to save the relationship and what would that look like?  The article goes on to list making a sheet with what you could do to save the relationship and another sheet with what your partner could do to save the relationship. 

3)   Ask yourself would you really be happier with someone else?   The article mentions that this is an important question to pose.  The article asks you to prioritize what are things that are truly important and whether the trade offs are worth it in the end.

4)   Is there still love for your partner?  The article asks probably one of the most important questions, which is if there is still love between the two of you.  If the answer is yes, then divorce might not be right yet.  Unfortunately once a party undergoes divorce, our emotions are not on and off.


At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. 

If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

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Thursday, April 6, 2017

Tips for Supporting Friends and Family

Often times when you have a friend going through a major life decision such as a divorce or separation they turn to you for comfort or advice. I read a interesting article on some tips and advice when you are approached by a friend for comfort. According to the article here are some tips:

1) Don’t name call or bad mouth the ex spouse. It doesn’t help, and often your friend may still have feelings for their ex. This confusion will bring about multitudes of mixed emotions. It helps to focus on your friend and their needs.

2) Don’t offer unsolicited advice. We all have stories of family or friends who gone through a divorce and what they received or what they did. Some of that advice might be relevant, but it doesn’t help your friend because their situation may be different and specific. It is more helpful to your friend to point them to the direction of a professional who can help them. You can offer to come with them.

3) Don’t insist on silver linings. Your friend may not be ready yet for sunshine and rainbows. It’s best to meet your friend where they are emotionally at the moment. If they are feeling down and need to experience that, meet them there. If they are happy then it can be welcoming to support their positive attitude.

 At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost, limited scope consulting, summary dissolution, attorney and divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County. If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View, and Santa Clara.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Low Cost Summary Dissolution San Jose California

Many people will contact my office regarding what is a fast way to get divorced.  California law has provided the method of San Jose Santa Clara Low Cost SummaryDissolution as a method to get divorced in the fastest way.  In order to qualify for a Santa ClaraMilpitas Affordable Summary Dissolution  

1.     Married or registered as domestic partners for 5 years or less.
2.     There are no children born before or during the relationship.
3.     Neither party owns any land or property.
4.     The community property minus the debts is worth $41,000 or less. (This number occasional changes due to cost of living adjustments)
5.     The separate property minus the debts is worth $41,000 or less. (This number occasional changes due to cost of living adjustments)
6.     The total of the community debts is $6,000 or less.  (This number occasional changes due to cost of living adjustments)
7.     You both intend to waive spousal support to each other.
8.     You both agree and will prepare a joint agreement on how to dispose of your assets and debts.

While the method is a good choice for some parties, it does have its negatives.  The negatives can steer people away from the summary dissolution procedure into a regular dissolution or a San Jose low cost and affordable uncontested divorce.    The parties do give up the right to a trial and to an appeal.  Please contact our office to see if summary dissolution is appropriate for you. 

At the Law office of James Chau we specialize in affordable low cost limited scope consulting attorney divorce for San Jose, Santa Clara, Sunnyvale, Cupertino, and the greater Santa Clara County.
If there are any legal questions you may have, I encourage you to, please contact my San Jose Divorce Lawyers office. My San Jose Family Lawyer offices assists many people who are going through family law related issues. We have many Affordable San Jose Divorce Lawyer solutions for many different budgets. San Jose unbundled limited scope family lawyer.  We help many individuals through this very chaotic period in their life. Proudly serving the following cities, FremontMilpitasLos GatosCupertinoMountain View,